Don't miss out on this....

What a crazy busy week it has been!!! I haven't gotten a lot accomplished on my "Christmas" projects, but I have had a lot of help, with getting the house cleaned up and some dejunking going on. YEAH for less CRAP!!!


I just wanted to share a movie/film that I watched last night.

Anyone ever hear of Fireproof. www.fireproofmymarriage.com

Well it's a great video on the marriage relationship specifically, but a lot of the concepts could be applied to other relationships as well.

The story goes something like this: One boy, one girl .... but not all happy and bliss. He's the captain at the fire station and fights fires and rescues people for a living, and the number one thing he points out that a fireman " Never leaves his partner".

She's a working woman, feels unappreciated, and wants more help at home, would like him to fix things up, and lots more things...

She says she wants out.... and he says FINE!!

When he tells his parents that they are probably over, they step in and strive to help him save his marriage with something the dad was going to mail to him later.

It was the LOVE DARE, it's a 40 day process of trying to find out how to love another imperfect person unconditionally. And no it isn't easy and not always fun, but when you get married it's for life, and we should work through the tough times, and the good times.

So the whole love dare is a process, but it also helps him find his faith in God, and over time, starts to realize what love really is, and what it isn't or shouldn't be.

Through his attempts to try and do this dare, his heart isn't really in it during the beginning, and every attempt he made ... she shot back down, and even told him that she doesn't love him. All the while, she starts becoming "attached" to a DR. at work.

And in the end..... well I don't want to give it all away. But I feel completely blessed that I watched this!! I think everyone should find a way to get a copy of this and really work on cherishing your spouse, and loving them with your whole heart and not just going through the motions.

This isn't my normal thing to do... but I don't want to forget this brief moment in my life, because I want to make sure that I'm with my husband FOREVER!!! Times get rough, but that's when a couple needs to come together and withstand the fire that rages about. I don't have the perfect marriage, but my husband is definitely my best friend, and I know he LOVES me, I just need to make sure that I don't take advantage of that!!

Cherish your family members, because life is too short not too!! And it's always full of surprises, and sadness and joy. Don't live your life with regrets. (as far as family members are concerned)

Button Pushing...

As I was having a conversation with my sister in law today... I got to thinking about something I could post on her. And basically it was the conversation we were having. Or rather the "lecture" or "talk" I was giving... I think I was talking way too much.. but what can I say -- I love to talk, but not only talk but to talk with an ADULT. You know those bigger kids that are over the age of talking like babies, and whining for everything they want. The kind of people that you can relate stories to, and get feedback from.

Well basically I had this to express...

I've realized lately that my husband and I are such a great match for each other. We were one of those "quick" couples. And by that I mean, we didn't date terribly long before we realized that we would get married. Heck from the time we first kissed until we were married... (get ready for this. Are you sitting down?) 100 days. That's it!!

Now some days I think..... 'WHAT THE HECK WAS I THINKING!' and other days I'm saying...
"WE'RE SO PERFECT FOR EACH OTHER!! I Love YOU SO MUCH!!" and then there are the " I can't live with you/ can't live without you feeling that seems to happen simultaneously. You know the bittersweet scenario.

But more and more, I'm realizing how perfectly matched we are. Because he seriously balances me when I'm loud and crazy. Balances me because he's probably not loud and usually isn't AS crazy as I am. When I'm upset and getting short with the little people, he tends to jump in and take over getting them ready for bed, while I get to go "relax" and "chill out" or basically " go have a MOMMY timeout" . And the same happens in reverse .. when he's upset with the kids or they seem to be agitating him more easily then me, I'll just take over the reins and herd them off to their beds for some much needed quiet time FOR US.

So not only do we work well as a pair that way, but he also knows how to push my buttons. And he knows exactly what buttons I have that get me going pretty sour pretty quickly. He knows this about me. And why shouldn't he? We've been married now for 11 years, so I think that is reason enough that he would know I have "BUTTONS". The problem doesn't lie with the fact that he knows about them, but that he PUSHES them. Oh, and he's good. He likes to tease, and torment, and thinks he's communicating a whole lot of LOVE my way. Hello?? I think we're speaking different languages here. I'm not getting a whole lot of LOVE out of all the "button" pushing. More like getting pretty UPSET and even ANGRY -- depending on my level of "endorphins" (aka the happy drug, well not really a drug you take, but one that is released when you laugh, and exercise and helps you feel better) at the time of onset.

And over the years, I've been trying to figure out what buttons he has... and well, to tell you the truth there aren't very many if at all. But there is one button I wish that he did have, and I'd engage it EVERY NIGHT, or every time he fell asleep. What button is that? Well, my TV comes with one, and the computer can be manipulated to do the same thing, and my kids NEED one too. Any Ideas???

I wish I could push the MUTE button. Let's see how you like that... husband. Ha.

But even as I'm writing this he probably wishes that I was programed with one of those buttons too. Well this might not be coming out vocally but the message is being heard loud and far. (Or at least I hope so)